I have been seeing clients for almost 10 years now and I have been asked several times that if I could only give one piece of advice to a client, what would that advice be? I always hated that question in the past because it was almost impossible to answer it, but with experience I have actually started to have a good answer to that question.

If I could only give one piece of advice to a client…a piece of advice that would help them the most in their lives regardless of the problems they are experiencing. The advice that I would give is to learn how to be okay not being okay. The truth of the matter is that life is going to throw curve balls at you and sometimes there is not much you can do about it. More often than not, any action you want to take to make the angst, anxiety, or negative feelings go away only avoid dealing with the pain or make the situation worse (trading short term relief for a long term prolonging of the problem)

If you can learn how to be okay not being okay in any situation, then there is nothing that a person cannot handle. While the pain and emotions are difficult, it is not something that will break you down and prevent you from doing the things that you need to in your life.